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What should I do if my partner doesn't listen to me?

Feeling unheard by your partner is one of the most frustrating and lonely experiences in a relationship.

Relationships & Communication

What should I do if my partner has anger issues?

Living with a partner who has anger issues can be frightening, exhausting, and emotionally damaging.

Relationships & Communication

What should I do if my partner is emotionally unavailable?

Dealing with an emotionally unavailable partner can be frustrating, lonely, and confusing.

Relationships & Communication

What should I do if my partner shuts down during arguments?

When your partner shuts down during arguments—becoming silent, withdrawing, or refusing to engage—it can be incredibly frustrating and leave you feeling unheard and disconnected.

Relationships & Communication

What should I do if my sponsor relapses?

Discovering that your sponsor has relapsed can be emotionally devastating and confusing, especially if you've been relying on them for guidance and support.

General Mental Health

What should I do if my teenager is experimenting with drugs or alcohol?

Stay calm, have honest conversations about risks and safety, and focus on harm reduction rather than punishment alone.

Teen-Specific Questions

What should I do if someone is giving me the silent treatment?

The silent treatment—when someone refuses to communicate with you as a form of punishment or manipulation—can be emotionally painful and confusing.

Therapy & Mental Health

What should I do if talk therapy doesn't seem to be helping my depression?

Feeling like talk therapy isn't helping your depression can be frustrating and discouraging, especially when you're putting time, energy, and often money into treatment.

Depression

What should I do if therapy isn't helping?

If therapy isn't helping, consider the therapeutic relationship, approach, timing, or external factors before concluding therapy doesn't work.

Identity & Self-Worth

What should I do immediately after experiencing a traumatic event?

The immediate aftermath of a traumatic event is a critical time for your physical and emotional wellbeing.

Trauma & Grief

What should I do when I feel like I can't handle stress anymore?

Feeling like you can't handle stress anymore is a serious signal that you need immediate support and intervention.

General Mental Health

What should I do when I feel like I don't know who I am anymore?

Feeling disconnected from your sense of self can be disorienting and frightening, but it's often a sign that you're in a period of growth, transition, or recovery from experiences that may have caused you to lose touch with your authentic identity.

General Mental Health

What should I do when I feel like I'm not good enough?

Feeling like you're not good enough is a painful experience that many people face, often stemming from perfectionism, past experiences, or internalized critical messages.

General Mental Health

What should I do when someone is gaslighting me?

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where someone makes you question your own reality, memory, or perceptions.

Relationship Abuse

What should I expect during a psychedelic therapy session?

Psychedelic therapy sessions involve preparation, supervised experience, and integration; expect profound emotions and altered perceptions.

Identity & Self-Worth

What should I expect during the divorce process?

The divorce process can feel overwhelming and emotionally exhausting, but understanding what to expect can help you prepare mentally and practically for the journey ahead.

General Mental Health

What should I expect from detox and withdrawal?

Detox and withdrawal experiences vary greatly depending on which substances you've been using, how long you've been using them, your overall health, and individual factors.

General Mental Health

What should I expect from my first AA or NA meeting?

Attending your first 12-step meeting can feel intimidating, but knowing what to expect can help reduce anxiety and help you get the most out of the experience.

General Mental Health

What should I expect from my first therapy session?

First sessions focus on getting to know you, discussing goals, and establishing rapport; it's normal to feel nervous or uncertain.

Identity & Self-Worth

What should I expect if my loved one goes to treatment?

When your loved one enters addiction treatment, it's natural to feel hopeful and relieved, but it's important to have realistic expectations about the treatment process and what it means for your relationship and family.

Therapy & Mental Health

What should I expect in addiction treatment?

Addiction treatment typically involves detox, therapy, education about addiction, developing coping skills, and ongoing support for long-term recovery.

Addiction & Recovery

What should I expect in my first 30 days of sobriety?

The first 30 days of sobriety are often challenging but also filled with small victories and moments of clarity.

General Mental Health

What should I know about depression and menopause?

The relationship between depression and menopause is complex and significant, with hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause substantially increasing the risk of depression, even in women who have never experienced mental health issues before.

Depression

What should I know about depression and pregnancy?

Depression during pregnancy, known as prenatal or antenatal depression, affects approximately 10-20% of pregnant women and is a serious condition that requires careful attention and treatment.

Depression

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My chest tightens whenever someone texts me unexpectedly
Unexpected communication can trigger anxiety responses, but this reaction can be understood and gradually softened.
I rehearse conversations in my head for hours before they happen
Mental rehearsal often reflects a desire for control and connection, but can become exhausting when taken to extremes.
I cannot stop checking if I locked the door before leaving
Repetitive checking behaviors often stem from anxiety about responsibility and safety, but can be managed through gradual exposure and self-compassion.
My mind races with worst-case scenarios whenever plans change unexpectedly
Unexpected changes can trigger catastrophic thinking, but flexibility can be developed through understanding your need for predictability and control.
Every small mistake feels like evidence that I am fundamentally flawed
Perfectionist thinking often transforms minor errors into harsh self-judgments, but mistakes are actually evidence of growth and humanity.
How do I know if I'm truly healing or just getting better at hiding my pain?
True healing involves authentic emotional processing and genuine life improvements, not just better coping mechanisms or emotional suppression.
How do I forgive someone who isn't sorry?
Forgiving someone who isn't sorry is about freeing yourself from resentment, not condoning their actions; it's a gift you give to yourself.
How can I stop comparing myself to others on social media?
Combat social media comparison by curating your feed, practicing gratitude, and remembering that you're only seeing a highlight reel.