What should I expect from my first AA or NA meeting?
General Mental Health
Attending your first 12-step meeting can feel intimidating, but knowing what to expect can help reduce anxiety and help you get the most out of the experience.
Attending your first 12-step meeting can feel intimidating, but knowing what to expect can help reduce Anxiety disorder and help you get the most out of the experience. Remember that everyone at the meeting was once attending their first meeting too, and most people are welcoming to newcomers.
Most meetings follow a similar format. They typically begin with a moment of silence, followed by reading of the group's traditions or steps. Someone will usually read a passage from recovery support literature, and then the meeting opens for sharing. In some meetings, people share on a specific topic, while in others, people share whatever is on their mind related to healing process.
You are not required to share or speak at your first meeting. Many people choose to just listen, which is perfectly acceptable. If you do choose to share, you can simply say your first name and that you're new to the program. People often say "I'm just here to listen" and that's completely respected.
Meetings usually last about an hour. At the end, many groups form a circle and recite the Serenity Prayer or another closing statement. Some groups go out for coffee or food after the meeting, which can be a good way to connect with others in a more casual setting.
You might hear people use terms you're not familiar with, like "sponsor," "working the steps," or "higher power." Don't worry about understanding everything immediately—these concepts will become clearer as you attend more meetings and learn about the program.
Different meetings have different personalities. Some are more formal, others are more casual. Some focus heavily on the steps and literature, others are more discussion-based. If the first meeting you attend doesn't feel like a good fit, try a few different meetings before deciding whether 12-step programs work for you.
Most importantly, remember that you belong there. addictive behaviors doesn't discriminate, and you'll likely find people from all walks of life who understand what you're going through.