What may be happening
Adolescence involves separating from parents to build an independent identity. Time with friends and alone in their room is part of that process. Embarrassment, academic pressure, social stress, and need for privacy can make family activities feel overwhelming. They may still love you while needing less visible closeness than younger childhood.
What can help
Show interest in their world—music, games, shows—without interrogating. Offer one-on-one time doing something they choose rather than insisting on group traditions. Keep reasonable family expectations (meals, chores, key events) while allowing autonomy elsewhere. Respect privacy while staying available: "I am here if you want to talk." Avoid guilt trips; they often push teens further away.
When to get support
Seek urgent help if you or someone else is having thoughts of self-harm or suicide, feel unable to stay safe, or symptoms are rapidly worsening. In the U. S. , call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, go to the nearest emergency room, or call 911 if you are in immediate danger. Consult a counselor if withdrawal is extreme, accompanied by hopelessness, self-harm, substance use, or sudden personality change—not just typical teen moodiness.