What may be happening
Others' struggles may trigger anxiety or guilt even when problems are not yours. You may offer unsolicited advice or feel uncomfortable simply listening.
What can help
Ask "Do you want advice or just someone to listen?" before problem-solving. Practice sitting with others' discomfort without rushing to rescue. Separate your worth from how well others manage their lives. Notice when fixing is about controlling outcomes or avoiding your own feelings. Set limits on emotional labor you can sustainably offer. Redirect energy toward your own goals and wellbeing.
When to get support
Consider professional support if symptoms persistently interfere with daily life, relationships, or safety. Seek urgent help if you are having thoughts of self-harm or feel unable to stay safe; in the U. S. , call or text 988. Seek therapy if compulsive fixing drives burnout, resentment, or one-sided relationships.