What do I do when I feel disconnected from my partner?

Feeling disconnected from your partner is one of the most lonely experiences because the person who should feel closest to you suddenly feels like a stranger. This disconnection can develop gradually through busy schedules, unresolved conflicts, life stresses, or simply falling into routines that don't nurture intimacy. You might find yourselves living parallel lives, going through the motions of being together without really connecting emotionally or physically. Sometimes disconnection happens after major life changes like having children, job changes, or dealing with family crises that shift your focus away from the relationship. The first step is recognizing that disconnection is normal and doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is doomed - it often just means you need to be more intentional about nurturing your bond. Start by having an honest conversation with your partner about how you're both feeling, without blame or criticism. Share your own experience of feeling disconnected and ask about theirs. Often, both people are feeling the same way but haven't talked about it. Make time for activities that help you reconnect - this might be regular date nights, taking walks together, or simply having phone-free conversations about something other than logistics. Physical affection, even non-sexual touch like holding hands or hugging, can help rebuild intimacy. Consider whether there are underlying issues like resentment, unmet needs, or different life goals that need to be addressed. Sometimes couples Psychotherapy can provide tools and perspective to help you reconnect more effectively.