What may be happening
Adolescence involves identity exploration and intense emotions—AI can feel like a private, nonjudgmental outlet. That is not automatically harmful. Concern grows when your teen prefers AI to friends, shares intimate details only with bots, gets upset when access is limited, or shows falling grades, sleep disruption, or withdrawal from activities they once enjoyed.
What can help
Start with curiosity: "What do you like about talking with AI?" "What kinds of things do you ask it?" Listen before setting rules. Set reasonable boundaries around time and devices while keeping dialogue open about benefits and limits of AI—including that it is not a substitute for human support or crisis care. Encourage offline connection: activities, clubs, time with friends and family. Model balanced technology use yourself.
If you see persistent depression, isolation, or dependency signs, consult a mental health professional familiar with teens and technology.
When to get support
Seek urgent help if you are having thoughts of self-harm or suicide, feel unable to stay safe, or symptoms are rapidly worsening. In the U. S. , call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, go to the nearest emergency room, or call 911 if you are in immediate danger.