What may be happening
You may dread their reaction, worry about damaging them, or disagree with your co-parent about what to say. Children may cry, rage, seem calm, or ask practical questions about where they will live.
What can help
Plan the conversation together with your co-parent when possible. Choose uninterrupted time—not before school or bedtime on a stressful day. Use simple language for young children; more detail for teens as appropriate. Say clearly: "This is an adult decision. You did not cause this." Explain what will change and what will stay the same. Allow all emotional reactions—they may cycle through feelings over time. Avoid blaming the other parent or sharing inappropriate adult details.
When to get support
Consider professional support if symptoms persistently interfere with daily life, relationships, or safety. Seek urgent help if you are having thoughts of self-harm or feel unable to stay safe; in the U. S. , call or text 988. Seek family therapy or child counseling if children show prolonged distress, regression, school problems, or self-harm concerns after the announcement.