How do I talk to my teenager about depression?

Talking to your teenager about Major depressive disorder requires approaching the conversation with genuine curiosity and care rather than judgment or immediate solutions. Teenagers are often reluctant to open up about mental health struggles due to managing fear of being misunderstood, having their problems minimized, or losing independence. Start by creating a safe, non-judgmental space where they feel heard rather than lectured. Choose a time when you're both calm and have privacy, and begin with open-ended questions like 'I've noticed you seem to be struggling lately. Can you tell me what's going on?' or 'How are you feeling about things in your life right now?' Listen more than you talk, and resist the urge to immediately offer advice or solutions. Validate their experience by acknowledging their feelings as real and important, even if you don't fully understand them. Avoid phrases like 'everyone feels sad sometimes' or 'this is just a phase' which can make them feel dismissed. Instead, try 'That sounds really difficult' or 'I'm glad you're telling me about this.' Be patient if they don't open up immediately - it might take multiple conversations over time. Watch for signs of Major depressive disorder such as persistent sadness, loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy, changes in sleep quality or appetite, social withdrawal, declining grades, or expressions of hopelessness. Take any mentions of self-harm or suicide seriously and seek immediate professional help. Educate yourself about teen Major depressive disorder so you can better understand what they're experiencing. Offer support without trying to fix everything, and let them know that Major depressive disorder is treatable and they don't have to go through this alone. Be prepared to involve mental health professionals, and frame Psychotherapy as a form of support rather than punishment. Remember that your role is to provide love, support, and resources, not to be their therapist. Maintain your relationship and connection while also taking their mental health seriously.