What may be happening
All children have ups and downs. A phase might look like a rough patch after a move or conflict, with your child still enjoying some activities and connecting with friends at times. Depression tends to show a sustained shift—less interest in play or friends, more complaints of headaches or stomachaches, declining school performance, or comments about worthlessness.
What can help
Track symptoms for two weeks: mood, sleep, appetite, school, and social life. Patterns matter more than single bad days. Talk with teachers or coaches to see whether changes appear in multiple settings. Ask gentle, open questions without interrogating: "You seem tired a lot lately—how are things feeling?" Schedule an evaluation with a child mental health professional if symptoms persist or concern you—waiting for certainty often delays needed help.
When to get support
Seek urgent help if you or someone else is having thoughts of self-harm or suicide, feel unable to stay safe, or symptoms are rapidly worsening. In the U. S. , call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, go to the nearest emergency room, or call 911 if you are in immediate danger. Seek prompt help if your child expresses hopelessness, self-harm, or suicidal thoughts—take all such statements seriously regardless of age.