How do I know if I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Emotional abuse can be harder to identify than physical abuse because it doesn't leave visible marks, but it can be just as damaging to your mental health and self-esteem. Key signs include a partner who constantly criticizes you, puts you down, or makes you feel like you can't do anything right. They might use insults disguised as jokes, compare you unfavorably to others, or make you feel like you're 'too sensitive' when you're hurt by their behavior. Emotional abusers often try to control your behavior by telling you what to wear, who you can see, or how you should spend your time. They might isolate you from friends and family, monitor your communications, or make you account for every minute of your day. Gaslighting is common - they might deny things they said or did, make you question your memory, or blame you for their abusive behavior. You might find yourself walking on eggshells, constantly trying to avoid setting them off, or feeling like you've lost yourself in the relationship. Emotional abuse often involves cycles of cruelty followed by affection or apologies, which can make it confusing and hard to leave. If you recognize these patterns in your relationship, reach out to a domestic violence hotline, therapist, or trusted friend for support. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.