What may be happening
Children may avoid new activities for fear of failing or being judged. Harsh self-criticism or comparison to siblings and peers can erode confidence quickly.
What can help
Notice and name specific effort: "You kept trying even when it was hard." Let them solve age-appropriate problems instead of fixing everything. Create opportunities for mastery—skills, chores, hobbies—at their level. Limit comparison talk; celebrate their unique strengths. Model handling your own mistakes with calm repair.
When to get support
Consider professional support if symptoms persistently interfere with daily life, relationships, or safety. Seek urgent help if you are having thoughts of self-harm or feel unable to stay safe; in the U. S. , call or text 988.