What should I do if I think my friend is in an abusive relationship?
Relationships & Communication
Support a friend in an abusive relationship by listening without judgment, providing resources, and maintaining the friendship even if they stay.
Supporting a friend in an abusive relationship is challenging because you can't force them to leave. Listen without judgment and avoid saying things like 'just leave' or 'I don't understand why you stay.' Abuse is complex and leaving can be dangerous. Let them know you're concerned and that the abuse isn't their fault. Provide information about domestic violence resources like the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233). Don't give ultimatums or cut off the friendship if they don't leave - they need your support more than ever. Help them develop a safety plan and be patient. On average, it takes seven attempts before someone leaves an abusive relationship.