What do I do when I feel like I'm losing myself in my relationship?

Feeling like you're losing yourself in a relationship is a gradual process that often happens so slowly you don't notice until you look up one day and realize you don't recognize the person you've become. This might manifest as giving up hobbies you used to love, changing your opinions to match your partner's, spending all your time together while neglecting friendships, or finding that you can't make decisions without considering what your partner would want. Sometimes this happens because you're naturally accommodating and want to make your partner happy, but over time, constant compromise can erode your sense of individual identity development. You might have stopped expressing preferences, pursuing your own goals, or even knowing what you want independent of the relationship. This pattern often develops from fear responses of conflict, low self-esteem, or believing that love means becoming one person rather than two individuals choosing to be together. The first step is recognizing that healthy Interpersonal relationship require two whole people, not two halves trying to complete each other. Start reconnecting with activities, interests, and friendships that existed before your relationship or that you've neglected. Spend time alone to remember who you are when you're not in couple mode. Practice expressing your own opinions and preferences, even when they differ from your partner's. A loving partner will want you to maintain your individual identity development and will support your personal personal development. If your partner reacts negatively to you reclaiming your sense of self, it might indicate deeper relationship issues that need to be addressed.