How do I deal with regret about things I didn't say or do?
Grief & Loss
Regret is common in grief; focus on what you did give rather than what you didn't, and consider writing a letter to express unfinished thoughts.
Regret about unfinished business is one of the most painful aspects of bereavement" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Grief. Remember that Interpersonal relationship are imperfect, and you did the best you could with what you knew at the time. Focus on what you did give - your love, presence, and care - rather than what you didn't. Consider writing a letter to your loved one expressing what you wish you had said. Some people find comfort in speaking aloud at the gravesite or creating a ritual to honor unfinished conversations. Forgive yourself for being human.