How do I deal with feeling like my mental health struggles aren't valid?
Identity & Self-Worth
Mental health struggles are always valid regardless of their cause or severity; comparison and minimization prevent you from getting needed help.
Feeling like your mental health struggles aren't valid is a common experience that often prevents people from seeking help or taking their own suffering seriously. This invalidation typically stems from comparing your struggles to others who seem to have it worse, societal messages about what constitutes 'real' mental health problems, or internalized beliefs about having to handle everything on your own. You might dismiss your Anxiety disorder because you haven't experienced Psychological trauma, minimize your Major depressive disorder because you have a job and Interpersonal relationship, or feel guilty about struggling when others face bigger challenges. The truth is that mental health exists on a spectrum, and you don't need to be in crisis or have a dramatic backstory to deserve support and care. Your pain is valid regardless of its cause, intensity, or how it compares to others' experiences. Mental health struggles can develop from a combination of genetics, brain chemistry, life experiences, and current stressors - none of which you have complete control over. Sometimes people invalidate their own mental health struggles because they can function in daily life, maintain Interpersonal relationship, or appear successful from the outside. This 'high-functioning' presentation doesn't mean your internal experience isn't real or significant. Many people struggle with Anxiety disorder, Major depressive disorder, or other mental health issues while still meeting their responsibilities, and this can actually make the struggle more isolating because others don't recognize their pain. Stigma around mental health can also make you feel like you should be stronger or more resilient, leading to overcoming shame about needing help or having emotional difficulties. It's important to recognize that seeking support for mental health is no different from seeking medical care for physical health problems. You wouldn't wait until a physical condition became severe before addressing it, and the same principle applies to mental health. Trust your own experience and instincts about your mental health needs. If you're struggling, that struggle is real and worthy of attention, regardless of how it looks from the outside or how it compares to others' experiences.