How do I deal with feeling like I'm too sensitive?
Identity & Self-Worth
High sensitivity is a normal trait, not a flaw; focus on managing your environment and honoring your emotional needs.
Feeling like you're too sensitive often stems from living in a culture that values emotional toughness and treats sensitivity as weakness rather than recognizing it as a normal and valuable human trait. High sensitivity affects about 20% of the population and involves processing sensory information, emotions, and social cues more deeply than others. This can make you more affected by criticism, conflict, loud noises, bright lights, or emotional atmospheres, leading others to label you as 'too much' or 'overly dramatic.' You might have received messages throughout your life that you need to toughen up, stop being so emotional, or develop thicker skin. These messages can create shame around your natural temperament and make you feel like there's something wrong with you for experiencing the world so intensely. The truth is that sensitivity is not a character flaw or something that needs to be fixed - it's a neurological trait that comes with both challenges and significant strengths. Highly sensitive people are often more empathetic, creative, conscientious, and aware of subtleties that others miss. They tend to be good listeners, thoughtful decision-makers, and deeply caring friends and partners. The key to thriving as a sensitive person is learning to manage your environment and energy rather than trying to life changes your fundamental nature. This might involve setting Personal boundaries around stimulation, taking regular breaks from social situations, creating calm spaces in your home, or limiting exposure to violent or disturbing media. It's also important to practice self-compassion and challenge the internalized messages that tell you your sensitivity is a problem. Surround yourself with people who appreciate and understand your sensitivity rather than those who constantly ask you to tone it down. Consider that in many cultures and historical periods, sensitivity has been valued as wisdom and emotional intelligence. Your sensitivity allows you to connect deeply with others and contribute unique perspectives to the world.