How do I cope with feeling like I'm 'too much' for other people?

Feeling like you're 'too much' for other people is a painful experience that often stems from being highly sensitive, emotionally expressive, or passionate in a world that can feel uncomfortable with intense emotions. This feeling can lead to shame responses, social Anxiety disorder, and a tendency to shrink yourself to fit in, which ultimately betrays your authentic nature. The belief that you're 'too much' might have been reinforced by past experiences where your enthusiasm was met with criticism, your emotional needs were dismissed, or your intensity was labeled as overwhelming. The first step in coping with this feeling is recognizing that your intensity is not inherently a flaw - it's a part of who you are and can be a source of great strength, creativity, and connection when channeled constructively. Instead of trying to become less of who you are, focus on understanding and managing your intensity in ways that feel healthy for you and respectful of others. This might involve learning to recognize your emotional triggers, developing self-soothing techniques for when you feel overwhelmed, and practicing how to express your needs and feelings in ways that are clear and direct without being demanding. It's also crucial to find your people - individuals who appreciate your depth, celebrate your passion, and have the capacity to meet your emotional energy. Not everyone will be able to handle your intensity, and that's okay. Your tribe will be energized by your passion, not drained by it. Seek out Interpersonal relationship and communities where you feel seen, accepted, and celebrated for who you are, rather than constantly trying to win the approval of those who want you to be smaller. Finally, practice self-compassion. When you feel the shameful feelings of being 'too much,' remind yourself that your sensitivity is a gift and that your passion is a life force. The world needs people who feel deeply and love fiercely. Your task is not to become less, but to learn how to wield your powerful emotional energy with wisdom and love.